You had such high hopes. Everything was clicking along so smoothly at your Christian dating site and you set up your first meeting with great expectations, only to find that the person of your dreams ended up being a nightmare. If this happens (and it happens to all of us) don’t get down on yourself. Just start over again.
Instead of putting all your eggs in one basket, keep your avenues open. Don’t just bank on one person, because if it doesn’t work out, you might lose heart.
Remember, you don’t always hit a home run on the first pitch. In fact, it rarely happens. But as I said in the very beginning…God loves you and has someone special for you. He’ll direct your path if you let Him. Take your time, pray about the situation, give yourself some breathing space and keep moving forward.
On the other hand if someone is trying to force you into making a commitment and you feel pressured, gently break away. Just put your foot down firmly and tell them you need more time. They’ll listen. And if they don’t, they’re not the type of person you want to be with anyway.
In case things don’t work out, make sure you part gracefully. The best thing to do is send them an e-mail saying they were not really what you had in mind, but you would like to remain good friends all the same.
Don’t worry about being pestered in future; the “good friends” part takes care of that. Most people dislike being called a good friend after a date or two. In most cases, the relationship should sizzle out after this. However please remember that it’s terribly bad manners to part without a word and just stop answering mails. Tacky!
Remember that the one person that knows your situation better than anyone else is Jesus Christ. So offer your situation up to God and let him take control. Things will be much easier and will work out better in the end.
So what are you waiting for? Go out there, make your presence felt, and may God guide you to the perfect partner for your life!