As a Christian single looking to do some Christian dating, there was something I had learned along the way that I really didn’t want in my new Christian partner.
I didn’t want to marry into a family I was uncomfortable with.
The influence of the extended family is so much greater than anyone realizes. Should you choose to marry the person you’re dating, what you see at their parents’ house is most likely what you’ll eventually get in yours.
Yikes! Scary thought, isn’t it?
I once dated a young lady who was bright, cute, charming, and very sweet.
Then I met her family.
I knew right away I did not want to spend any more time with these people than I absolutely had to, let alone bring my children into this household. It would have been unbearable.
At that point, it became very apparent to me that one of the more important factors in my choice of partner would be the extended family. And it should be for you too.
These are the people who you will spend holidays with. Take vacations with. Help raise your children with.
Do you want your children in an environment that’s packed with stress? Or brimming with alcohol abuse? Or filled with screaming and fighting day and night?
When your relationship is just getting started, take a good long look at the family. See how everyone relates with each other.
Do you feel a lot of love when you enter the house? Or do you cringe? Things like this will matter greatly in the future!
I thank God for my wife’s folks. They’re a lot like my own. They’ve accepted me into their family and have always made me feel welcome. And as far as a basic child raising philosophy, we’re on the same page.
Many people gripe about their in-laws, but I couldn’t have asked for two better people. I am certainly blessed.
When looking down the road in your relationship, please give close consideration to the extended family.
Take it from me–they’re going to be with you for a long, long time.
My goal is that you’ll prayerfully consider the advice I’ve given and experience growth in your Christian walk as well as in your personal self.
But if you only take one thing away from this book, please take this: God loves you and wants the best for you.
He’ll guide your steps and lead you to your future mate. But only if you let Him!
If you give it over to the Lord, He’ll help you build a solid, loving relationship with your partner and shower you with blessings like you’ve never seen before!
So go out there and get ‘em—you deserve it!