If you’re a Christian single who’s dating another Christian seriously, things can move towards the passionate every now and then. After all, we’re only human. You can go ahead with your Christian dating.
You’re snuggling on the couch, watching a movie. You start gazing into each other eyes, then lean into each other slowly.
The kiss begins innocently, but quickly becomes more urgent. Your face flushes and your heart pounds as arms embrace.
The more you kiss, the more you crave. And before you know it, you’ve crossed the line.
Sounds like a cheap romance novel, right?
Unfortunately, it’s not. It’s an everyday occurrence in the lives of many Christians who are dating.
Eventually as any relationship progresses, physical intimacy will become an issue. But let me be perfectly clear on one thing:
God made us to be sexual beings. It’s not a sin to feel sexual. It’s what you DO with those feelings that can get you into trouble.
I know hard it can be. When my wife and I were dating, our passions were almost at a constant boiling point. We were two healthy, vibrant human beings who wanted nothing more but to be together.
Was it a sin to feel this way? Of course not. God rejoices in the physical and spiritual union that takes place in the marriage bed.
It’s kind of like a Christmas present. It’s right there in front of you for days and days, looking inviting. You may even pick it up and shake it a time or two.
But if you unwrap it before you’re supposed to, you’ll be very disappointed come Christmas morning, when you have nothing left to open.
And you’ll wish you had never touched your present.
This is a very volatile subject with many engaged Christian couples. Some will use the excuse of
“We’re already married in our heart. The ceremony is only a formality. God want us to be together.”
It’s amazing what the human mind will rationalize when it’s stimulated.
What a complete pile of baloney. To actually think that God would change His word so you could be together? Gimme a break.
We know a couple who remained kiss-and-hug-free for the last few weeks preceding their wedding. Dates and evenings spent together ended with a handshake and a quick exit.
Smart people. They knew their weaknesses and refused to flirt with danger.
It was also very hard for my wife and I. Since I had been sexually active in the past, whenever we got cozy my natural tendency was to progress to the next level.
I’m not saying were perfect. If we had it to do again, we’d change some things. But we made it to our wedding bed as virgins in the eyes of the Lord. And today, we have a very healthy sex life (Thanks God!)
If we can do it, you can too.
The best way to avoid breaking the physical intimacy barrier is not put yourself in a position where something could happen.
Don’t get too cuddly on the couch. Avoid lying on a bed together. Keep your hands to yourself.
Things can get out of hand way too quickly and before you know it, it’s too late.
And when all else fails, RUN! It’s better to flee from temptation than flirt with it.