There’s several pitfalls to avoid when building your Christian dating online profile. For example…
The Modesty Pitfall
Most of us have been trained to be very modest. When it comes to saying something good about ourselves we feel queasy about blowing our own trumpet. But your profile is not so much about trumpet blowing as it is about stating some facts.
If you’re a music lover and have a good voice too, put them both down. You can still declare your vocal talents without sounding too proud. You may want to say something like, “My friends think that I sing rather well.” It’s as good as saying “some people think that I sing well, but it’s for you to decide whether I have a good voice or not.” Very factual without a hint of pride.
“Lots of people appreciate my cooking.” “I am no Picasso, but I enjoy painting.” “I like decorating, and many of my friends say I have pretty good taste.”
The Braggart Pitfall
Bragging, as we all know, is a major turnoff. This is especially true in the case of physical attributes. You might be a real looker, but let others decide for themselves.
You can make implied statements like, “I am certainly not ugly,” or “opinion is divided, some people think that I’m good looking while others think that I’m not.” But perhaps the best way of describing yourself would be to add a touch of humor to it.
If you’re chubby you might say something like, “I’m round in all the right places…I hope.” If you’re tall you could say something like, “some say I should play basketball.” If you’re on the short side you could say something like, “Short in stature, but big in heart.”
Or, if you really want to be clever and unique, think about someone who you may resemble. We’ve all been told that we look or act like somebody famous, right? Through the years, I’ve been likened to Tom Hanks, Bill Murray, Aiden Quinn, Vince Gill and even Ron Palillo, who played Horseshack on “Welcome Back Kotter”!
Comparing yourself to a familiar face gives the other person a picture to build on. If they still want more, give them a detailed (but honest) description.
Above all, keep it light and funny whenever possible. Humor works wonders. If you’re able to make funny comments about yourself, that’s a BIG turn on. I speak from experience.
As a teenager, I was a nice-looking kid but I wasn’t model material. I was skinny and untalented at sports (which were huge at my high school) so I needed another way to make myself attractive to girls. One day, I read that women were more attracted to a man’s sense of humor than to their physical aspects.
So guess who instantly became the funny man on campus? Long story short, I never wanted for dates after that.